Movies actually meant for fun, sometimes leave a strong impact deep within. I am lucky to have watched such masterpieces and Yes, I have actually understood some very basics of life which go a long way in making it beautiful!
Sharing some of them with you -
Finding NEMO - I have watched this movie..over 20 times or so, a real good piece of animation where the baby fish, Nemo has only one wing developed and still he thinks of making it BIG. His father does not trust his capabilities but still he gets into trouble and then again he gets out too in a funny way while helping loads of other fishes. He makes loads of friends in his journey and emerges out as clear winner despite of his shortcoming and then..
All trust him, since he proves himself to one and all.
I can always relate so much to this character. I may be bogged down several hundred times but I always smile and tell myself that this all will not last long and surely I will see sunshine. And..it does happen always, just like magic. All I need is a little patience.
The Ugly Truth - Basic message.."Live life freely and not by checklists and then accept the truths in your life, however UGLY they may seem. You will much more happier."
If Only - I would not like to disclose the story of this movie here because the message delivered, needs to be felt.
"The most important gift we can give some is our TIME!"
"We cannot alter your destiny. But we can only alter the choices we make in life."
"There is only one remedy to anger and hatred -and that is LOVE"
"Life does not end with one person, it goes on with the beautiful memories and some sad ones too."
"Love someone as if he/she will not be there with you anymore."
Well,I agree to all above but the last one.
Why does it always happen that you realize a person's worth when he/she is no more or leaves you?
Why are we so busy in life setting priorities like job, money, status, friends etc. that we ignore the one person who loves us and he/she takes the bottom-most priority?
Is it always necessary that we understand how important someone is for us when we are dying or when he/she is dying or maybe leaving?
Why can't we just cherish the times together and share the load of priorities together and makes our life worthwhile?
The choice is in your hands - To savor the relation, stick to it through all thick and thin times and not apply terms and conditions to it.
Live every moment and love every bit of it with your loved ones.
Time is too short for holding grudges and not communicating. Be it bad or good, never stop communication, because it's the only way where the bridge opens up, even when the doors of heart close.
If the terms are being applied, better opt for the right choice of quitting the burden for yourself and your special someone. This may seem like a bad option now but will benefit both in the long run, for sure.
Simply amazing movie. The best lessons which I have learnt, I credit it all to this movie.
Love your beloved and make them feel special every day despite your busy schedules because it's easy to give them Time when you are free but what matters is how much you care to take those 2 min out of your busy times to remember that someone out there still loves you and always needs to know that you will be there, forever after!
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Understand your ENTITY!
Observing people(one of my favorite hobbies)..has given me a deep insight into the classic varieties of human nature when it comes to serious relations. After years of observations and counseling my friends, I am now able to identify or rather categorize every lone person(entity), I meet, into one of the following types...
One who means it but can do nothing about it. - Ever heard an entity saying - ' I will love my ... until death does us apart'?? Yes, I'm talking about this variety where the entity is all hearts for the relation but when the time comes to stand up for it, this entity loses the courage to even talk or stand up for the relation. It thinks -'Killing your feelings or the other person's feelings and getting into Silent mode is the best mode of fighting back the world!"
My take- Atleast you should have tried yar...who cares what the result is. It may be as bad..as it is now, but at least you would have the satisfaction that you tried!!
One who doesn't mean anything and it hardly matters whether he/she does anything about it or not.. - Wo..Wo...This entity is all hearts for you and the purrfect definition of all story book romantic character. Everything is pure bliss with them, but Yenna rascala, Mind it! This entity is good and by the time you realize it's full goodness, you have already been used. A purrfect killer whose sole purpose is to hurt.
My take - Use your brain and not your heart everytime. If someone is praising you for no reason (which only you know better), avoid..run..get away fast..very fast!
One who means it and will go to all lengths to make sure.. - A darling entity, a rare creature nowadays. Rarely will you find such entities who are true to the core to themselves and to the one person who means the world to them. I don't say that these are daring enough to elope but yes they will leave no stones unturned to make sure that the one person it love is safe and happy always. Whether this entity is far or near, it will always make it's presence felt by small gestures which makes the person feel special.
My take- Never hate such a person because that even when this entity may or may not be there always, it has wanted the best for you and love you to the core.
One who is confused that they if he/she really means it or not! - This entity has been hurt by one of the first two kinds and will always fail to trust anyone next time, even when the feelings are strong. It will always be confused and keep on spreading this confusion to others. Sadly enough it's only when they get to meet the entity of the third type, will their fears disappear.
My take- Avoid such person too if you are not of the third type because you will only get more hurt in your dealings with them. They will always be confused and will also drag you in their category. Beware!
People have their own reasons to fall into one of these types..and that does not mean they are bad!
I won't say..keep on judging people based of this categorization but yes..You have all the right to save yourself..if you can..
And, If by chance..your entity turns out to be of the third type..the rarest of kinds...never ever let it go!! Hold onto it, tight..very tight.. :)
One who means it but can do nothing about it. - Ever heard an entity saying - ' I will love my ... until death does us apart'?? Yes, I'm talking about this variety where the entity is all hearts for the relation but when the time comes to stand up for it, this entity loses the courage to even talk or stand up for the relation. It thinks -'Killing your feelings or the other person's feelings and getting into Silent mode is the best mode of fighting back the world!"
My take- Atleast you should have tried yar...who cares what the result is. It may be as bad..as it is now, but at least you would have the satisfaction that you tried!!
One who doesn't mean anything and it hardly matters whether he/she does anything about it or not.. - Wo..Wo...This entity is all hearts for you and the purrfect definition of all story book romantic character. Everything is pure bliss with them, but Yenna rascala, Mind it! This entity is good and by the time you realize it's full goodness, you have already been used. A purrfect killer whose sole purpose is to hurt.
My take - Use your brain and not your heart everytime. If someone is praising you for no reason (which only you know better), avoid..run..get away fast..very fast!
One who means it and will go to all lengths to make sure.. - A darling entity, a rare creature nowadays. Rarely will you find such entities who are true to the core to themselves and to the one person who means the world to them. I don't say that these are daring enough to elope but yes they will leave no stones unturned to make sure that the one person it love is safe and happy always. Whether this entity is far or near, it will always make it's presence felt by small gestures which makes the person feel special.
My take- Never hate such a person because that even when this entity may or may not be there always, it has wanted the best for you and love you to the core.
One who is confused that they if he/she really means it or not! - This entity has been hurt by one of the first two kinds and will always fail to trust anyone next time, even when the feelings are strong. It will always be confused and keep on spreading this confusion to others. Sadly enough it's only when they get to meet the entity of the third type, will their fears disappear.
My take- Avoid such person too if you are not of the third type because you will only get more hurt in your dealings with them. They will always be confused and will also drag you in their category. Beware!
People have their own reasons to fall into one of these types..and that does not mean they are bad!
I won't say..keep on judging people based of this categorization but yes..You have all the right to save yourself..if you can..
And, If by chance..your entity turns out to be of the third type..the rarest of kinds...never ever let it go!! Hold onto it, tight..very tight.. :)
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Making Life COMPLICATED!
Or is it already???? And you have come here searching for an answer.
Wow..Good Thought..but sorry boss..
I may try and tell you things but that may not be what you will like to hear..You will justify, reason out, try to understand.. and then..leave this blog..frustrated or rather more frustrated then ever.
For those of you who have faith in my counseling sessions[ ;)], I actually have a little something for you..
Talking about Career complications !! Hmm..Ya..Even I have been dealing with the thought of trying to prove myself, to God knows whom. Most of the times we fail to meet our own standards and then the same old story of being unsatisfied etc etc.
My Advice- Set reasonable long term goals, benchmarks may be short term. This will help you a lot because sometimes even if you compromise on short term goals, you know that it will pay off rewards in the long term.
Like if I'm earning say 10K..and my friend double than me: NOW. I have only one assurance that..10 years down the line, will it really matter? Because my needs at that point of time will decide it and if I have the caliber, then I will surely be at par.
Complicated Relationships..That's the latest one..I have heard of late. People fall into a relation.. a beautiful one.. then again, the brains are used, logic is derived to segregate MEN as creatures from Mars and WOMEN as Venus beings and you pop out!! :) Total CRAP!!
Try and read all this and you will come out more than a moron on this deep and exciting subject. Find out 1001 ways of playing hard with someone in order to get him/her..or rather apply rules..of 'HOW TO MAKE SOMEONE FALL IN LOVE', and still you will get nowhere..I would say it would work out maximum times but in the end you know it all in your heart and consequences will be evident at some point of time..making things more complicated. SO, just be simple.
I know you would say, faith has been lost sometime, you want to take revenge and you will want to flirt, try and complicate friendships with Love and then again, back to square one, you lose it all.
My Advice - Accept the happy feelings and share...loads of it. Nothing more, nothing less. If it happens, it will be for good and if it does not then you are so good yourself :)
Just appreciate yourself and people around you 100 times a day, and you will see the difference.
You will fall in love with yourself over and over again with approx. the same effect on the people you actually love.
Disclaimer - These are purely my pravachan with the basic fact - Accept life as it comes and don't try to reason it out everytime. Live it and love it! Create the magic, you already are.
Wow..Good Thought..but sorry boss..
I may try and tell you things but that may not be what you will like to hear..You will justify, reason out, try to understand.. and then..leave this blog..frustrated or rather more frustrated then ever.
For those of you who have faith in my counseling sessions[ ;)], I actually have a little something for you..
Talking about Career complications !! Hmm..Ya..Even I have been dealing with the thought of trying to prove myself, to God knows whom. Most of the times we fail to meet our own standards and then the same old story of being unsatisfied etc etc.
My Advice- Set reasonable long term goals, benchmarks may be short term. This will help you a lot because sometimes even if you compromise on short term goals, you know that it will pay off rewards in the long term.
Like if I'm earning say 10K..and my friend double than me: NOW. I have only one assurance that..10 years down the line, will it really matter? Because my needs at that point of time will decide it and if I have the caliber, then I will surely be at par.
Complicated Relationships..That's the latest one..I have heard of late. People fall into a relation.. a beautiful one.. then again, the brains are used, logic is derived to segregate MEN as creatures from Mars and WOMEN as Venus beings and you pop out!! :) Total CRAP!!
Try and read all this and you will come out more than a moron on this deep and exciting subject. Find out 1001 ways of playing hard with someone in order to get him/her..or rather apply rules..of 'HOW TO MAKE SOMEONE FALL IN LOVE', and still you will get nowhere..I would say it would work out maximum times but in the end you know it all in your heart and consequences will be evident at some point of time..making things more complicated. SO, just be simple.
I know you would say, faith has been lost sometime, you want to take revenge and you will want to flirt, try and complicate friendships with Love and then again, back to square one, you lose it all.
My Advice - Accept the happy feelings and share...loads of it. Nothing more, nothing less. If it happens, it will be for good and if it does not then you are so good yourself :)
Just appreciate yourself and people around you 100 times a day, and you will see the difference.
You will fall in love with yourself over and over again with approx. the same effect on the people you actually love.
Disclaimer - These are purely my pravachan with the basic fact - Accept life as it comes and don't try to reason it out everytime. Live it and love it! Create the magic, you already are.
Sunday, June 6, 2010
Tit Bits of Happiness
Life's moving fast.
And here I am recounting days where I have actually been happy. Just a thought, since I am idle these days. Somewhere down the memory lane, I had thought that I will remember only things that were grand or which were a turning point in life. But now when I recall, it's the smallest of gestures by friends or the foolishness of age which have mattered the most to me.
I remember the day when me and my friends played tirelessly for 7 hours as soon as our board exam paper was leaked. We even went for a picinic to aeroplane park..5 of us..on one scooter.
I remember having the first crush (along with 30 other girls of my class, to be specific 7th standard) when 2 Russian students came for an exchange program to our school. What fun it was to watch girls do crazy things like dating those guys and write love letters.Had I been less studious or more spoiled types..even I would have done that but it worth watching them all, acting crazy. :)
Teasing guys made my day, when they got serious for some girl in class 4..haha.. so kiddish, it was.
And yes, how can I forget,.. being a tom boy kinds, I even had a duel with a guy and punched him real hard but sadly, he was stronger. What a waste fight it was.
College time, the best and the most gala time if my life. Made so many friends..knew almost all my batch. Thankfully none of them was pretentious and even though grown up, they were kids at heart. Driving to college..52kms round trip on marine drive..reaching at 10am and leaving at 12:30pm after waiting for friends and then reaching home...7:30 pm was a routine, we never missed; no matter how many classes we bunked. Any believe it or not, we bunked it for playing 'Chain' or 'Pakdam Pakdai' on the lake side. Many courtships did develop and are still on for good. :)
Side by side..going to the dam after our morning coaching class and teasing the couples there, was another of our time pass. We even used to throw pebbles at them and run off. Can't stop laughing, thinking about it. Forgot to mention about the accidents too..major time headon collisions while learning bike..car..and what not.
Infy times..a separate place altogether..both at home and in office. Missed my college life like anything. Considering my personal acquaintances, I have found that the ratio of me being friends with girls has always been 1/4 of me being being friends with guys. Simple reason, my parents have always treated me as their son :). So, I found it really hard to make friends with my roomates. But lately, that barrier is broken.
I have had some really good times with them watching Mamaji's habits and learning tactics of tracking guys or searching them on FB or orkut(for their marriage)..haha..total fun..no intention. I remember the times when I have been real sick or during my exams, when they have cared for me in their best possible way.
When they have helped me grow out of home sickness..
When they start dancing on any song anytime..
When we started sharing a common hobby of singing..the I-31 hobby
And yet there are some more friends who have touched my heart by their own sweet gestures..
like cracking a PJ when I am in the worst of moods..or waking me up in the morning when I least expect them to..or singing a song for me...in a very gruff voice or by swearing at me..on phone..like the bestest of friends.
I'm smiling today. And wish to..even when this Life tries to overtake me. Thanks to all who have made my life worthwhile..an continue to do so..You matter a lot to me..
And here I am recounting days where I have actually been happy. Just a thought, since I am idle these days. Somewhere down the memory lane, I had thought that I will remember only things that were grand or which were a turning point in life. But now when I recall, it's the smallest of gestures by friends or the foolishness of age which have mattered the most to me.
I remember the day when me and my friends played tirelessly for 7 hours as soon as our board exam paper was leaked. We even went for a picinic to aeroplane park..5 of us..on one scooter.
I remember having the first crush (along with 30 other girls of my class, to be specific 7th standard) when 2 Russian students came for an exchange program to our school. What fun it was to watch girls do crazy things like dating those guys and write love letters.Had I been less studious or more spoiled types..even I would have done that but it worth watching them all, acting crazy. :)
Teasing guys made my day, when they got serious for some girl in class 4..haha.. so kiddish, it was.
And yes, how can I forget,.. being a tom boy kinds, I even had a duel with a guy and punched him real hard but sadly, he was stronger. What a waste fight it was.
College time, the best and the most gala time if my life. Made so many friends..knew almost all my batch. Thankfully none of them was pretentious and even though grown up, they were kids at heart. Driving to college..52kms round trip on marine drive..reaching at 10am and leaving at 12:30pm after waiting for friends and then reaching home...7:30 pm was a routine, we never missed; no matter how many classes we bunked. Any believe it or not, we bunked it for playing 'Chain' or 'Pakdam Pakdai' on the lake side. Many courtships did develop and are still on for good. :)
Side by side..going to the dam after our morning coaching class and teasing the couples there, was another of our time pass. We even used to throw pebbles at them and run off. Can't stop laughing, thinking about it. Forgot to mention about the accidents too..major time headon collisions while learning bike..car..and what not.
Infy times..a separate place altogether..both at home and in office. Missed my college life like anything. Considering my personal acquaintances, I have found that the ratio of me being friends with girls has always been 1/4 of me being being friends with guys. Simple reason, my parents have always treated me as their son :). So, I found it really hard to make friends with my roomates. But lately, that barrier is broken.
I have had some really good times with them watching Mamaji's habits and learning tactics of tracking guys or searching them on FB or orkut(for their marriage)..haha..total fun..no intention. I remember the times when I have been real sick or during my exams, when they have cared for me in their best possible way.
When they have helped me grow out of home sickness..
When they start dancing on any song anytime..
When we started sharing a common hobby of singing..the I-31 hobby
And yet there are some more friends who have touched my heart by their own sweet gestures..
like cracking a PJ when I am in the worst of moods..or waking me up in the morning when I least expect them to..or singing a song for me...in a very gruff voice or by swearing at me..on phone..like the bestest of friends.
I'm smiling today. And wish to..even when this Life tries to overtake me. Thanks to all who have made my life worthwhile..an continue to do so..You matter a lot to me..
Saturday, June 5, 2010
My outburst!!
I had always thought that I if start blogging..it would turn out to be something gross, something of the kind, I'm writing today..I just hope it gets better over time.
I have never wanted to blog..never ever..wanted to break my shell..not this way at least!
Reason?
It kills the very essence of my being someone, whom no one can ever understand. I really doubt that apart from my parents, my brother and some very good friends, any one has taken efforts to know the real - 'me'.
Most of them judge me, they laugh at my PJs. They say I'm bossy, loud mouth and heartless.
Oh!..I am already crying out aloud for always being misunderstood.
I'm pondering over things, over the explanations which I sort, for what I'm today:
Agreed I'm Bossy and have a sharp tongue.
Reason: It's the crap that people give me. They think that they can make the best use of me and my beloved family. But sorry boss, that's not happening with me around, at least!
Agreed that I'm the best PJ cracker in town.
Reason: The frustration which my career graph gives me..it just sucks to know that I have been the best of lot always. Somewhere, I have compromised with my priorities and I also know where. But really being cheerful by my own PJ's does help. It even helps the people around me and gives me some fresh air..
Agreed that I have turned heartless.
Reason: My dreams have been shattered time and again.My feelings questioned..
I had always wished to be the best daughter, make my parents proud..but for now..that's not happening..don't even know when this wait will be over. Cherry on the cake is the marriage on cards, the worst nightmare..because one thing I know for sure..nobody can make me happy by loving me unconditionally as my parents do. Never wanted to marry since I was a kid. But that has to be..I just can't stand my parent's so sad..when I know that I'm the reason ..when I know they have trusted me so much always.
Agreed that I'm closed and rude at times.
Reason:But that's because I want to save my friend's from getting hurt at a later stage. Better have less pain now then more in the end. I really care for them but by the time they understand this..it's always late.
I hate questions..Y's and what's and how's.. If someone is my friend or loves me..he or she will understand.Explanations or expectations are used by people only when they think of themselves . Can't they really empathize with me for once?? I have a well of feelings in the secret corner of my heart, but I guess, not even one single person in this world will reach it, ever!! I will keep on pretending to be practical and people will keep on taking me for granted. I have stopped expecting, stopped being expressive because I'm scared..very scared. Don't know when I will be able to break my shell.
But now ..after writing all this.. I am so much relieved. I don't know if I'm sharing this with anyone but I just know that I have jotted down 'a piece' of my emotional self, out here. Feels better already...
Even I have dreams of making it big time in life..taking my parents for a world tour, enjoying every bit of life with someone I love( let's just hope my 'would be' solves the purpose), have cute little kids(oh common', I am grown enough to think of this at some later stage), have my NGO and smile ..at all small and beautiful things in life.
Lets keep this between us, shall we?
Someday maybe..I will kick all the bloody backstabbers in my office.
Someday maybe..I will have an MBA degree in my hand!
Someday maybe..I will have my NGO running.
Someday maybe..I will take my parents and loved ones for a holiday spree..be happy in their happiness..
Someday maybe..I will meet the one person who knows me through and through..
Someday maybe..He will propose me with the engagement ring..and the rose..with love in the eyes and we will dance on the soft sound of the heartbeats!
An let's just hope he is a hard core "ROMANTIC" like me. :)
I have never wanted to blog..never ever..wanted to break my shell..not this way at least!
Reason?
It kills the very essence of my being someone, whom no one can ever understand. I really doubt that apart from my parents, my brother and some very good friends, any one has taken efforts to know the real - 'me'.
Most of them judge me, they laugh at my PJs. They say I'm bossy, loud mouth and heartless.
Oh!..I am already crying out aloud for always being misunderstood.
I'm pondering over things, over the explanations which I sort, for what I'm today:
Agreed I'm Bossy and have a sharp tongue.
Reason: It's the crap that people give me. They think that they can make the best use of me and my beloved family. But sorry boss, that's not happening with me around, at least!
Agreed that I'm the best PJ cracker in town.
Reason: The frustration which my career graph gives me..it just sucks to know that I have been the best of lot always. Somewhere, I have compromised with my priorities and I also know where. But really being cheerful by my own PJ's does help. It even helps the people around me and gives me some fresh air..
Agreed that I have turned heartless.
Reason: My dreams have been shattered time and again.My feelings questioned..
I had always wished to be the best daughter, make my parents proud..but for now..that's not happening..don't even know when this wait will be over. Cherry on the cake is the marriage on cards, the worst nightmare..because one thing I know for sure..nobody can make me happy by loving me unconditionally as my parents do. Never wanted to marry since I was a kid. But that has to be..I just can't stand my parent's so sad..when I know that I'm the reason ..when I know they have trusted me so much always.
Agreed that I'm closed and rude at times.
Reason:But that's because I want to save my friend's from getting hurt at a later stage. Better have less pain now then more in the end. I really care for them but by the time they understand this..it's always late.
I hate questions..Y's and what's and how's.. If someone is my friend or loves me..he or she will understand.Explanations or expectations are used by people only when they think of themselves . Can't they really empathize with me for once?? I have a well of feelings in the secret corner of my heart, but I guess, not even one single person in this world will reach it, ever!! I will keep on pretending to be practical and people will keep on taking me for granted. I have stopped expecting, stopped being expressive because I'm scared..very scared. Don't know when I will be able to break my shell.
But now ..after writing all this.. I am so much relieved. I don't know if I'm sharing this with anyone but I just know that I have jotted down 'a piece' of my emotional self, out here. Feels better already...
Even I have dreams of making it big time in life..taking my parents for a world tour, enjoying every bit of life with someone I love( let's just hope my 'would be' solves the purpose), have cute little kids(oh common', I am grown enough to think of this at some later stage), have my NGO and smile ..at all small and beautiful things in life.
Lets keep this between us, shall we?
Someday maybe..I will kick all the bloody backstabbers in my office.
Someday maybe..I will have an MBA degree in my hand!
Someday maybe..I will have my NGO running.
Someday maybe..I will take my parents and loved ones for a holiday spree..be happy in their happiness..
Someday maybe..I will meet the one person who knows me through and through..
Someday maybe..He will propose me with the engagement ring..and the rose..with love in the eyes and we will dance on the soft sound of the heartbeats!
An let's just hope he is a hard core "ROMANTIC" like me. :)
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