Who understands you?

I asked some of my friends who were/are in a relationship..as to what the crux of the start of their relation. Most of you should have easily guessed the answer by now -
"Oh! We understand each other on a totally different level. He/She understands me like no one does."

I have always thought about what makes this variety of "understanding" so special that only a single person qualifies it for the maximum score? There must be definitely something and that something surely lies in the way you understand or reach out to the other person. After a lot of grueling thought process,I found only 2?!

The first basic qualifier - You both think on the similar lines maximum times and you appreciate that person for what he/she thinks.
Second - Even when you don't think on similar lines, you put yourself in that person's shoes and then give your views. You don't make the person feel bad while doing all this..and manage to find a midway or a safe zone.
Bingo!..1 and 2..these are the basics.

If you fail to do even one of those, then let me tell you that the other person will always blame you for hurting his/her feelings.

Sometimes they will even tell you that your understanding is so damn minimal as compared what he/she shares with his/her friends. However much the people will claim that their friend or lover qualifies to the same standards of understanding, this comparison is ridiculous as there is a lot more pain involved in the 2nd case when the standard does not match up.

I have witnessed some broken relations with all the misunderstandings involved and really I would hate to see more of it...So, I am just blabbering here..

Its only wordz!

Flashes of memories..remembrances of people..some delightful moments shared with them and some not so worth mentioning..
But still these people..manage to leave a mark in your life. So what is it that defines the odd variety of people whom you would love to remember always or would want to become like one of them.

Is it care, trust, love etc etc? I know all this does make the rare mixture of the people we are referring to. But this what I have come to terms with in my short span of happening life..that all emotions eventually boil down gestures and words.

Some few or many years down the line..you will remember...only those words said by people who mattered most to you..or those who managed to bring a smile on your face..those which taught you to be strong..those who made you a winner and obviously those which have molded you into the kind of person you are..

And this is what I believe..that it's better to avoid speaking negative by rather being silent or putting it up in an assertive way..that even the shortest of sentences can speak a lot for your care and concern..that even your one silly joke can cheer the saddest soul. Who knows someone might even fall for your joke.. ;)

By the by..these words do match up with what I feel..
It's only words and words are all I have to steal your heart away.