I recently attended one my friend’s marriage where I met her neighbour uncle. All the friends were supposed to stay at his place since he had offered to help. He was very kind old man, a kind of caring figure. He had lost his wife some time back and his children were in US. Still, he preferred to stay in India and help out people. Somehow, I got very connected to him and his way of talking to us like we were his grand children. There was not a single point where he showed any grief about his wife but kept on joking and helping in the chores of marriage despite his age. He died 2 days back. I felt really sad for him even though I had met him only once.
There is another incident from my childhood days in Bhopal, when I had gone to a super market with my parents and was waiting for them, on the scooter outside. Around 2-3 shops to the left of the market was a hospital. Suddenly, there was a high pitched screaming noice and I saw 2-3 strong men trying to hold her back in a Sumo. But this lady she kept on screaming and crying. I went closer and I could her clearly now.
‘Why are you all not letting me in? Why can’t I see him? Tell me he is fine. What happened to him? Please tell me he will be fine. I will not be able to live without him.’
I was dumbfounded and shocked and seriously I was just not able to bear her cries of agony.
Death does triggers such weird and sad emotions that even the strongest one amongst us break down. I was reminded of both these incidents today and felt that I should just take them off my heart. I really never wanted to write on this matter as it makes me sad, but I have also met some people, some friends who have defied this pain and always remain cheerful about the fact that there are still more people whom you love and who wish to see you happy. You need to smile for them. These people cannot replace the special someone who has gone but they will be your biggest strength in healing your pain over the time.
So, this is just a toast to the spirit of such people who go on spreading happiness around…and who believe that goodbyes are only for a while ..a short while until you meet your precious ones..high up there…!
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Oh.. my dear teacher!
School days...Our teacher was generally giving us fundaes of life. 2 guys were throwing chalks at each other from under the desks as usual.. She saw this and made them stand. She asked them to hold only the left ear with the left hand. So they did.. but got real confused as to why only one ear and this was so easy for a punishment??
Next, she asked them to take their left hand around the neck and then hold their left ear for sometime. (A round about way and a much more difficult punishment. It can give you real pain if done for a long time.)
Even you will be confused as to what she was actually trying to prove here..But then she had all the answers...
First learning : Punishments should always make you become a better person.
you to make more mistakes.
Second learning: There are two ways of telling the truth... You tell it straight or take a longer route of lying and hiding it and then when the pain of hiding becomes unbearable, telling it anyhow.
Somewhere deep down, I have always believed in these lessons for life.
And now..this is what I know for the second one..people go on hiding the truth and telling lies..one after the other and people believe them more, unless the lie pops out face on. They choose to take the round about route to truth with modified facts and what not. Most of the times, they are trying to save themselves unless the reason is too great.
And then there are some who believe in telling the truth every time but people have their own weird theories and interpretations that they are not ready to accept the obvious truth so easily. They continue fooling themselves and become a pain for the person telling the truth.
BUT..the person telling the truth is always very well aware of the consequences and knows that this way is far more easier then hurting others, by lying every now and then when eventually the truth will come out.
So, my friends..just trust your instincts and know that..telling the truth is the best way out..you still have a long way to go and obviously you don't wish to get caught :P
*Terms and conditions apply! ;)
Next, she asked them to take their left hand around the neck and then hold their left ear for sometime. (A round about way and a much more difficult punishment. It can give you real pain if done for a long time.)
Even you will be confused as to what she was actually trying to prove here..But then she had all the answers...
First learning : Punishments should always make you become a better person.
you to make more mistakes.
Second learning: There are two ways of telling the truth... You tell it straight or take a longer route of lying and hiding it and then when the pain of hiding becomes unbearable, telling it anyhow.
Somewhere deep down, I have always believed in these lessons for life.
And now..this is what I know for the second one..people go on hiding the truth and telling lies..one after the other and people believe them more, unless the lie pops out face on. They choose to take the round about route to truth with modified facts and what not. Most of the times, they are trying to save themselves unless the reason is too great.
And then there are some who believe in telling the truth every time but people have their own weird theories and interpretations that they are not ready to accept the obvious truth so easily. They continue fooling themselves and become a pain for the person telling the truth.
BUT..the person telling the truth is always very well aware of the consequences and knows that this way is far more easier then hurting others, by lying every now and then when eventually the truth will come out.
So, my friends..just trust your instincts and know that..telling the truth is the best way out..you still have a long way to go and obviously you don't wish to get caught :P
*Terms and conditions apply! ;)
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