"Happening" - That has always been the key word associated with my life by people who love me...
The rest...who love me a little less or maybe equally always say - "Oh God!..you are insane. You screwed up again!" :D
But what can I say?? That's the way I have been living my life ever since.
I have had some of the best times with friends, all outings, parties..gettos..n crazy talks..
Made some worst decisions in life..and hurt people I love..got hurt back in return..only wishing that the next decision will be right..
Made some wackiest possible choices for friends..involving them too in troubles and trials.. but with the intention of making things right..I just hope they will be.
And then..visited the OT twice at the age of 26 :D..surviving major mishaps..Feat achieved and I'm still smiling for the fact that nothing happened to people I love...Thank God!
Seriously..when I lie down and think what all I have seen or experienced till date is too much of "happening stuff", which I have endured only because the prayers of my friends were accompanying me always. It is at these times of crisis that I have realized how much I care for my family and friends.
I love them all for helping me in surviving these tuff times and now I can still tell stories about "the happening life of a mad mad girl"-->>The Adventures of Alice in her wonderland!
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
It’s goodbye for a while! Only for a while!
I recently attended one my friend’s marriage where I met her neighbour uncle. All the friends were supposed to stay at his place since he had offered to help. He was very kind old man, a kind of caring figure. He had lost his wife some time back and his children were in US. Still, he preferred to stay in India and help out people. Somehow, I got very connected to him and his way of talking to us like we were his grand children. There was not a single point where he showed any grief about his wife but kept on joking and helping in the chores of marriage despite his age. He died 2 days back. I felt really sad for him even though I had met him only once.
There is another incident from my childhood days in Bhopal, when I had gone to a super market with my parents and was waiting for them, on the scooter outside. Around 2-3 shops to the left of the market was a hospital. Suddenly, there was a high pitched screaming noice and I saw 2-3 strong men trying to hold her back in a Sumo. But this lady she kept on screaming and crying. I went closer and I could her clearly now.
‘Why are you all not letting me in? Why can’t I see him? Tell me he is fine. What happened to him? Please tell me he will be fine. I will not be able to live without him.’
I was dumbfounded and shocked and seriously I was just not able to bear her cries of agony.
Death does triggers such weird and sad emotions that even the strongest one amongst us break down. I was reminded of both these incidents today and felt that I should just take them off my heart. I really never wanted to write on this matter as it makes me sad, but I have also met some people, some friends who have defied this pain and always remain cheerful about the fact that there are still more people whom you love and who wish to see you happy. You need to smile for them. These people cannot replace the special someone who has gone but they will be your biggest strength in healing your pain over the time.
So, this is just a toast to the spirit of such people who go on spreading happiness around…and who believe that goodbyes are only for a while ..a short while until you meet your precious ones..high up there…!
There is another incident from my childhood days in Bhopal, when I had gone to a super market with my parents and was waiting for them, on the scooter outside. Around 2-3 shops to the left of the market was a hospital. Suddenly, there was a high pitched screaming noice and I saw 2-3 strong men trying to hold her back in a Sumo. But this lady she kept on screaming and crying. I went closer and I could her clearly now.
‘Why are you all not letting me in? Why can’t I see him? Tell me he is fine. What happened to him? Please tell me he will be fine. I will not be able to live without him.’
I was dumbfounded and shocked and seriously I was just not able to bear her cries of agony.
Death does triggers such weird and sad emotions that even the strongest one amongst us break down. I was reminded of both these incidents today and felt that I should just take them off my heart. I really never wanted to write on this matter as it makes me sad, but I have also met some people, some friends who have defied this pain and always remain cheerful about the fact that there are still more people whom you love and who wish to see you happy. You need to smile for them. These people cannot replace the special someone who has gone but they will be your biggest strength in healing your pain over the time.
So, this is just a toast to the spirit of such people who go on spreading happiness around…and who believe that goodbyes are only for a while ..a short while until you meet your precious ones..high up there…!
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Oh.. my dear teacher!
School days...Our teacher was generally giving us fundaes of life. 2 guys were throwing chalks at each other from under the desks as usual.. She saw this and made them stand. She asked them to hold only the left ear with the left hand. So they did.. but got real confused as to why only one ear and this was so easy for a punishment??
Next, she asked them to take their left hand around the neck and then hold their left ear for sometime. (A round about way and a much more difficult punishment. It can give you real pain if done for a long time.)
Even you will be confused as to what she was actually trying to prove here..But then she had all the answers...
First learning : Punishments should always make you become a better person.
you to make more mistakes.
Second learning: There are two ways of telling the truth... You tell it straight or take a longer route of lying and hiding it and then when the pain of hiding becomes unbearable, telling it anyhow.
Somewhere deep down, I have always believed in these lessons for life.
And now..this is what I know for the second one..people go on hiding the truth and telling lies..one after the other and people believe them more, unless the lie pops out face on. They choose to take the round about route to truth with modified facts and what not. Most of the times, they are trying to save themselves unless the reason is too great.
And then there are some who believe in telling the truth every time but people have their own weird theories and interpretations that they are not ready to accept the obvious truth so easily. They continue fooling themselves and become a pain for the person telling the truth.
BUT..the person telling the truth is always very well aware of the consequences and knows that this way is far more easier then hurting others, by lying every now and then when eventually the truth will come out.
So, my friends..just trust your instincts and know that..telling the truth is the best way out..you still have a long way to go and obviously you don't wish to get caught :P
*Terms and conditions apply! ;)
Next, she asked them to take their left hand around the neck and then hold their left ear for sometime. (A round about way and a much more difficult punishment. It can give you real pain if done for a long time.)
Even you will be confused as to what she was actually trying to prove here..But then she had all the answers...
First learning : Punishments should always make you become a better person.
you to make more mistakes.
Second learning: There are two ways of telling the truth... You tell it straight or take a longer route of lying and hiding it and then when the pain of hiding becomes unbearable, telling it anyhow.
Somewhere deep down, I have always believed in these lessons for life.
And now..this is what I know for the second one..people go on hiding the truth and telling lies..one after the other and people believe them more, unless the lie pops out face on. They choose to take the round about route to truth with modified facts and what not. Most of the times, they are trying to save themselves unless the reason is too great.
And then there are some who believe in telling the truth every time but people have their own weird theories and interpretations that they are not ready to accept the obvious truth so easily. They continue fooling themselves and become a pain for the person telling the truth.
BUT..the person telling the truth is always very well aware of the consequences and knows that this way is far more easier then hurting others, by lying every now and then when eventually the truth will come out.
So, my friends..just trust your instincts and know that..telling the truth is the best way out..you still have a long way to go and obviously you don't wish to get caught :P
*Terms and conditions apply! ;)
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Answer this first!
I have always been fond of reading good stuff..especially inspirational ones or anything which helps you understand life and people around you in a much better way.
It was in my 10th std that Gandhiji was the face of every course book, I read. I was ok kinds impressed and agreed with his beliefs but there was this short parable in the front page of each course book which left a distinct impression on me...(may not be the exact words)
"Whenever you are in doubt about what you are doing is wrong or you are palnning to do is wrong, just ask yourself one question- 'Can you tell it to your parents and still look them straight in their eyes?' And that should answer it all for you."
Is'nt it really true that when we mess up something, the first questions which pops up is - "My parents should not know this..else I'm screwed." :)
So why not try the either way out, of just asking this question beforehand and in case the ans is 'Yes', then we can carry on with our mess and to hell with world. Our friends understand us anyways...and are always glad to mess it up more (wicked smile!) ;)
It was in my 10th std that Gandhiji was the face of every course book, I read. I was ok kinds impressed and agreed with his beliefs but there was this short parable in the front page of each course book which left a distinct impression on me...(may not be the exact words)
"Whenever you are in doubt about what you are doing is wrong or you are palnning to do is wrong, just ask yourself one question- 'Can you tell it to your parents and still look them straight in their eyes?' And that should answer it all for you."
Is'nt it really true that when we mess up something, the first questions which pops up is - "My parents should not know this..else I'm screwed." :)
So why not try the either way out, of just asking this question beforehand and in case the ans is 'Yes', then we can carry on with our mess and to hell with world. Our friends understand us anyways...and are always glad to mess it up more (wicked smile!) ;)
Sunday, January 2, 2011
New year will be great!
New year is a time..when -
You know that maybe the past year was not the best you have had...but you plan on making the new one ..the best!
You will try and expect least from people as it is the easiest way of making life more bearable for you and your loved ones.
You will ignore all negative feelings in case they make you sad. In case they inspire you for the good of even a single person then use them as a catalyst.
You will be satisfied in nothing less than the best, you deserve and give a good fight for it.
You should accept that even the worst will turn for your own good..it is just a matter of time.
Surely, the feeling is simply great today, to make it big in this year ahead..and I wish the same for all I know. :)
You know that maybe the past year was not the best you have had...but you plan on making the new one ..the best!
You will try and expect least from people as it is the easiest way of making life more bearable for you and your loved ones.
You will ignore all negative feelings in case they make you sad. In case they inspire you for the good of even a single person then use them as a catalyst.
You will be satisfied in nothing less than the best, you deserve and give a good fight for it.
You should accept that even the worst will turn for your own good..it is just a matter of time.
Surely, the feeling is simply great today, to make it big in this year ahead..and I wish the same for all I know. :)
Monday, December 13, 2010
Beautiful mind and heart too!
It was a boring Saturday nite and I happened to surf some movie channels.. came across the movie 'A beautiful mind'. I was somehow reminded of this movie name, as suggested by many of my friends as a must watch, though never really got a chance...
The movie was already half over..still managed to gather some info from the set top box. It was about the fight that a scheizophrenic person puts up against his disease even when he is totally helpless as the problem is actually his brain.
Well..every scene in this movie is a masterpiece..and I was speechless
Take for instance the scene where the guy knows his disease,is totally helpless but still challenges his doc against taking electric shocks and medicines. He tries to convince his wife to leave since he was dangerous. His wife still remains with him and tells him that whatever his mind makes him feel or see is not real..the only real thing is him and her and their hearts together. Whenever he is faced with any delusion he should only believe only in this truth and nothing else. And that's how the guy never gives up and learns to ignore his delusions and life a happy life..with his wife being the constant pillar of support.
This movie also reminds us of similar situations in most of our lives..where we are totally helpless...where our mind may not be able to provide the perfect answer..and maybe heart can or vice versa..is true! This realization may not come to us all of a sudden but only when someone who cares for you, reminds you that.
Then..what do do you do.. Just choose to live through the situation with your loved one and ignore the worst parts as rightly said by movie's male protagonist - "It's only in the complex equations of love that you realize what logic is."
Lovely movie and amazing message..was totally mesmerized by it! Sigh!
The movie was already half over..still managed to gather some info from the set top box. It was about the fight that a scheizophrenic person puts up against his disease even when he is totally helpless as the problem is actually his brain.
Well..every scene in this movie is a masterpiece..and I was speechless
Take for instance the scene where the guy knows his disease,is totally helpless but still challenges his doc against taking electric shocks and medicines. He tries to convince his wife to leave since he was dangerous. His wife still remains with him and tells him that whatever his mind makes him feel or see is not real..the only real thing is him and her and their hearts together. Whenever he is faced with any delusion he should only believe only in this truth and nothing else. And that's how the guy never gives up and learns to ignore his delusions and life a happy life..with his wife being the constant pillar of support.
This movie also reminds us of similar situations in most of our lives..where we are totally helpless...where our mind may not be able to provide the perfect answer..and maybe heart can or vice versa..is true! This realization may not come to us all of a sudden but only when someone who cares for you, reminds you that.
Then..what do do you do.. Just choose to live through the situation with your loved one and ignore the worst parts as rightly said by movie's male protagonist - "It's only in the complex equations of love that you realize what logic is."
Lovely movie and amazing message..was totally mesmerized by it! Sigh!
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Thou shall fall.. to rise again Phoenix - wise
7th Grade – Me and my brother got our first red Atlas cycle. We were so excited about our gift that we kept pestering our Dad by asking silly questions-
“How much time will we take to learn cycling?”
“Ok..How much time did you take?”
“Should we drive fast or should we be very slow?”
“How will we balance it without putting our both feet on the ground?”
“This tyre is so slim..What if a dog comes..and what if it’s a buffalo? The cycle will skid.”
“Ok..How will we take a turn while cycling (biggest fear)…Should we also move in synch?” ..and..so..on and on..
Finally after answering a few of the logical ones..and telling us about the functioning of the brakes and the pedals..Dad coolly told us -
“Just sit and I will hold the cycle from back to balance it for you till you learn to balance it yourself. You both are smart enough to learn it real quick. Every successful beginning requires a sacrifice. So, don’t be afraid of falling and shedding a little blood because that is how you will learn by overcoming all your fears. .”
So, I kept my first foot on the paddle..barely managing the second one, holding on to father on one side and mom on the other…and there..I started off with Dad running to match the pace..So much for the exercise for him too.:)
After four or five rounds when I finally managed to balance the cycle, Dad left his hand without letting me know and I drove fast..very fast to keep my balance in place and excitement was on its peak. But on the next turn, I saw a scooter coming and did not act on reflex to pull the brakes. The next reflex…I pushed my legs on the ground..and poof…with mud all around..there I was on the ground..all four corners..my new cycle beside me.
Yes! There were little drops of blood dripping from my knees but I was really happy to see them because I knew that now I would be perfect at cycling. My brother was way ahead of me..getting both his elbows bruised but he learnt much faster than me.
Day1 and we both were bikers. Thanks to Dad for his advice and Mom for her silent support by just watching us for hours.
Here it goes..a learning for lifetime...
Not everything can be learnt theoretically. There will be people to support you and advice you for sometime. Appreciate and learn from what they tell you. But after that, only you will need to deal with circumstances practically and head-on. You might even have to make a lot of sacrifices. You might fall down and get hurt badly in the process but do not let the fear of unknown stop you because it is ok to get hurt for what you want best.
Just be sure to rise again amidst all such failures and fallbacks because only that defines your endurance limit and your inner strength..and you do have a lot of it. It’s just that you need someone to assure you that and then…
You will rise from the Ashes, soar like Phoenix towards the Zenith as your Horizon lies there!
“How much time will we take to learn cycling?”
“Ok..How much time did you take?”
“Should we drive fast or should we be very slow?”
“How will we balance it without putting our both feet on the ground?”
“This tyre is so slim..What if a dog comes..and what if it’s a buffalo? The cycle will skid.”
“Ok..How will we take a turn while cycling (biggest fear)…Should we also move in synch?” ..and..so..on and on..
Finally after answering a few of the logical ones..and telling us about the functioning of the brakes and the pedals..Dad coolly told us -
“Just sit and I will hold the cycle from back to balance it for you till you learn to balance it yourself. You both are smart enough to learn it real quick. Every successful beginning requires a sacrifice. So, don’t be afraid of falling and shedding a little blood because that is how you will learn by overcoming all your fears. .”
So, I kept my first foot on the paddle..barely managing the second one, holding on to father on one side and mom on the other…and there..I started off with Dad running to match the pace..So much for the exercise for him too.:)
After four or five rounds when I finally managed to balance the cycle, Dad left his hand without letting me know and I drove fast..very fast to keep my balance in place and excitement was on its peak. But on the next turn, I saw a scooter coming and did not act on reflex to pull the brakes. The next reflex…I pushed my legs on the ground..and poof…with mud all around..there I was on the ground..all four corners..my new cycle beside me.
Yes! There were little drops of blood dripping from my knees but I was really happy to see them because I knew that now I would be perfect at cycling. My brother was way ahead of me..getting both his elbows bruised but he learnt much faster than me.
Day1 and we both were bikers. Thanks to Dad for his advice and Mom for her silent support by just watching us for hours.
Here it goes..a learning for lifetime...
Not everything can be learnt theoretically. There will be people to support you and advice you for sometime. Appreciate and learn from what they tell you. But after that, only you will need to deal with circumstances practically and head-on. You might even have to make a lot of sacrifices. You might fall down and get hurt badly in the process but do not let the fear of unknown stop you because it is ok to get hurt for what you want best.
Just be sure to rise again amidst all such failures and fallbacks because only that defines your endurance limit and your inner strength..and you do have a lot of it. It’s just that you need someone to assure you that and then…
You will rise from the Ashes, soar like Phoenix towards the Zenith as your Horizon lies there!
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